15 Nov 2018 - Purna Krishnamoorthy
The holidays are a stressful time for most individuals, though it’s meant to be an enjoyable time of year. It is even more stressful for those who are recent divorcees trying to cope with how their children will spend the holiday season.
This post contains some helpful suggestions for those who are attempting to deal with this difficult situation.
First of all, it is vital to keep in mind that it is equally important for both parents to spend time with their children during the holidays. Therefore, focusing on properly allocating parenting time should be a priority. This is generally where most disputes arise. It would be ideal if both parents could settle parenting time together in a compromising manner, but this is rarely the case. So, talk to your attorney about the importance of spending quality time with your children during their time off from school. Would you be ok with spending Thanksgiving with your children, and giving the other parent Christmas? If not, decide what would be an adequate alternative. For instance, this may require you to do Thanksgiving dinner one night earlier in order to allow the other parent to have the children attend their Thanksgiving dinner on Thanksgiving. The upside may be however, that giving into this arrangement may allow the other parent to offer you Christmas Eve and morning in return for Thanksgiving dinner.
As was mentioned in the previous post regarding “The Mediation Process of Divorce,” marriage is a contract of compromise and likewise the same applies with divorce. Another option is to have written into the Judgment of Divorce a clause that allows for alternating holidays spent with the children each year. The point is to make the transition into the holidays as smooth as possible for the children. Your objective is to disrupt the children’s lives as little as possible, given that the divorce itself can already be disruptive to the lives of children. The spending of holidays is something that can alternatively be worked out during the mediation process. Simply come to mediation with an open mind, and be prepared to compromise in order to serve the best interest of your children. It is always best to seek the advice of experienced counsel when deciding parenting time. The process, when done correctly, can alleviate stress and allow you to enjoy the holidays the way they are meant to be. If you, or someone you know is currently having issues deciding parenting time during the holidays, please give Krishnamoorthy & Associates a call at: (248) 358-6995 x3159. Happy Holidays!!
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